Elevate Your Relationship,

Elevate Your Life

change is possible

When your relationship feels stuck, there is a way forward.

At some point, many couples reach a stage in their relationship where differences start creating tension rather than connection. You may feel misunderstood, unappreciated, or emotionally distant from the person you once felt closest to. Small frustrations escalate quickly, conversations go nowhere, and you’re left feeling alone, even when you’re still together.

Most couples tell themselves “it’s not that bad” or hope things will settle on their own. But over time, avoidance can lead to resentment, disconnection, and a quiet sense of grief for the relationship you hoped to have. You might be functioning well on the surface while feeling increasingly flat, stuck, or unsure about the future.

The good news? Feeling this way doesn’t mean your relationship is broken. It means you haven’t been given the right framework or tools yet, and those can be learned.

Nicole created a beautiful safe space for us to reflect on ourselves and provided some helpful tools that I can’t wait to use to make our relationship better.

— Riti. Wanaka

Introducing,

Dr Nicole Pray

Licensed Clinical Psychologist & Relationship Coach

listening is an act of love

Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Nicole supports couples to rediscover connection, closeness, and a renewed sense of possibility in their relationship. Her work is centred on empowering couples with practical tools and shared understanding, helping them reconnect with the aliveness and intimacy that first brought them together.

Nicole is a clinical psychologist and trauma specialist who brings a grounded, real-world approach to relationship support. With deep expertise in trauma and attachment, she helps couples build a strong sense of safety, both within themselves and with each other. By combining evidence-based trauma work with relationship-focused therapy, Nicole supports couples to move beyond old patterns and intentionally create the relationship they want to grow into together.

Key approaches

& modalities:

Imago Relationship Therapy
Integrative Behavioural Couples Therapy
EMDR (trauma-informed therapy)
CBT, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) & DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy)
Attachment-based Mindfulness and Compassion-focused approaches

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Change is possible, when you have the right support.

Strong relationships are built on shared understanding, practical tools,

and knowing you don’t have to figure it out alone.

A different starting point for couples

Many couples seek help after years of feeling stuck, frustrated, or disconnected. Traditional fortnightly therapy can feel slow or discouraging when partners don’t yet share a clear understanding of what’s happening between them, or how to change it together.

Nicole takes a different approach. Rather than starting with ongoing sessions that revisit the same old conflicts, she encourages couples to begin by learning a shared relationship framework through her Getting the Love You Want Couples Workshop. When both partners understand their patterns and have practical tools they can use straight away, tension often reduces more quickly and change feels more achievable.

This workshop-first foundation helps couples feel aligned, hopeful, and equipped, creating momentum that supports deeper work, whether that’s continuing together in couples therapy or simply moving forward with greater confidence and connection.

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IT TAKES TWO PEOPLE TO CREATE A PATTERN BUT ONLY ONE TO CHANGE IT

Not sure what kind of

support you need?

Some people know exactly what they’re looking for. Others simply know that something isn’t working and want clarity before taking the next step. Both are completely normal.

Below, you’ll see a few different ways to work with Nicole including couples workshops, individual or couples therapy, and upcoming online courses. Each option offers a different level of support, depending on where you’re at and what you’re hoping to change.

You don’t have to keep struggling on your own or repeating the same patterns. With the right support, couples can learn new ways of communicating and create a relationship they both want to be part of.

If you’re unsure which option feels like the best place to start, a short conversation can bring clarity. Nicole offers a 25-minute Discovery Call (via Zoom or phone call) where you can talk through your situation, explore your goals, and discuss whether a workshop or another option would be most helpful. You’ll also leave with practical tips you can start using right away.

The investment for a Discovery Call is $125 (including GST).

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VALIDATION IS THE KET TO SHIFT

FROM CONFLICT TO CONNECTION

Work with Nicole

Couples

Workshops

The Getting the Love You Want couples workshop is a practical, research-based weekend experience designed to help couples understand their patterns, improve communication, and rebuild emotional closeness. You’ll learn a shared set of tools you can use together, creating momentum and clarity that supports real change, often faster than traditional therapy alone.

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Couples & Individual Therapy

Personalised, evidence-based therapy for couples and individuals seeking deeper understanding, healing, and support through life’s challenges. Whether you’re navigating relationship difficulties, trauma, anxiety, stress, or major transitions, Nicole offers a grounded, compassionate approach tailored to your needs and goals.

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Online Relationship

Courses

(Coming soon) A series of online courses exploring advanced relationship topics, designed to support couples and individuals who want to deepen their understanding and create lasting change. Upcoming topics will include healing the intimacy gap, navigating co-parenting differences, surviving blended families, rebuilding trust after an affair, and supporting each other through perimenopause and menopause.

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Testimonials

KIND WORDS FROM HAPPY CLIENTS

hear it from clients

I was dragged in blind and ‘WOW’ what an impressive positive experience for my wife and I. We now have some easy-to-use tools to work on strengthening our relationship to be sustainable forevermore to realise our yet-to-be-designed Relationship Vision. A concentrated two day course that provides some 300% return on investment.

— Mark, Wellington

Nicole and Jacqui provided a weekend workshop that I found so valuable. My partner and I had attended counselling and had begun to address the ‘hot/volatile’ and recurring stressful issues in our relationship. The weekend workshop was a turning point where lights went on, crucial learning, realizations and tools for going forward in a more positive, healthy way were learnt.

— Rose,Tauranga

This has been a most rewarding experience that as a couple we can go on experiencing growth and healing in our relationship. I appreciate understanding now why I react in anger, and have a tangible way to change to meet my husband’s needs and my own through Imago therapy. I feel privileged to be able to pass on to our children a healthy way of communicating.

— Karmenne, Tauranga

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My gift to you

5 Simple Scripts for

Better Conversations

Feel more confident going into difficult conversations

If you’re looking for a gentle place to start, this free guide offers simple, supportive language to help you approach everyday conversations with more clarity and less tension.

5 Simple Scripts for Better Conversations gives you practical wording you can begin using straight away, especially when emotions run high, things feel stuck, or you’re not sure how to say what you really mean. These scripts are designed to help you feel more grounded, heard, and connected, even if your relationship feels strained right now.

You don’t need to get it perfect — just start differently.